You know, Sarah Worthy I may take you up on that.
I’ve learned a lot over the past 5 or 6 years about boundaries and cutting ties with the toxic. I’m pretty good at it. The problem is that so far, the people have all been people I want out of my life.
I don’t want my mom out of my life. I love her so much. I just want her to respect my choices and not try to manipulate me through guilt. I know I’ve made her sound like a loon, but she’s a wonderful person, when you ignore the part that has acted as enabler to a violent alcoholic for 43 years. Problem is that part of her is so ill. To survive my father, she had to develop an extraordinary denial mechanism. Something horrible happens, my mom has handled it and is pretending it never happened in like 5 minutes. Reminding her of the horrible thing is one of the only ways to really piss her off in a hurry.