My point (which I have gradually worked my way around to) is, what about guys who have stronger sex drives and feel like the woman they’re with is coming on to them? I was never drunk in those situations where the woman I was with was intoxicated; what about the guy whose judgement is impaired, decides why not?, and the next day finds out the woman who was hot for him a few hours ago now thinks he was a major mistake. If she can even remember the details.
Yeah. So, this.
I would really, really love to get my hands on some reliable data regarding campus sexual assaults, alcohol, recanted statements, proven false accusations, etc. Because I’ve asked myself about this stuff since I was a student.
I’m sure it has happened — the drunk girl screws drunk guy and wakes in the morning with no memory of the encounter, and no evidence of what took place beyond a telling soreness below, or she wakes next to him, naked, and starts to panic. Something happens — maybe she ends up with an STD, or a pregnancy — and to save her own reputation she says he forced her, etc.
And I find the scenario repugnant.
I don’t think it’s super prevalent, but like I said, I haven’t found any data I find reliable at this time.
And you’re right, It’s a tough situation. How does one define consent when both parties are under the influence?
I guess I think back to college and try to figure out what, if anything, would have deterred me from my behavior. And I really feel like there isn’t enough promotion of shared responsibility solutions. We either attack men for being predators, or we attack women for getting themselves into a compromised situation. But I think sometimes, the only thing to promote is the truth about the connection between alcohol intake and sexual assault, and pound into the next generation that before they hit the bottle, they need a plan with another person who has their back, and isn’t going to let them screw someone. Even if their drunk ass really, really needed to get laid.
I keep nodding off writing this so I’m going to end it here, before I get too pedantic.