What the FUCK are you even talking about? FIRST OF ALL, in no way did I insult you, or personally attack you, or treat you with disrespect. Yet your response is blatantly insulting. So, I’m no longer worried about treating you humanely. You have shown me you have no interest in anything but your own warped outlook on the world. I’ve read your responses (since that’s all you seem to be capable of producing here. You just troll around looking for your hot-button topic of choice and then swoop in to drop a little truth. Except, it’s not. And trolling just makes you a troll, you pathetic excuse for a man.)

My question was directly addressing your comment. You know, the one YOU made.

I have no sympathy and no care for any man or boy who has sex with any woman or girl who makes it clear from the outset that she does not want sex.

My point (not that you’ll even attempt to find any relevance in it, because you are clearly the subtype of man who has decided he is a victim in the society that was abjectly CREATED FOR HIM. And if you can’t find contentment THERE, I have little hope for you on any front.) is that, in your comment you implied the opposite as well: that if a woman does NOT make it clear from the outset that she does not want sex, then a man should feel free to infer that she does, indeed, want sex, and that you have no sympathy for what happens to her after that.

Two people need to be in agreement to make the decision to have sex. If he changes his mind, no sex should take place. If she changes her mind, no sex should take place. Because, guess what? People aren’t always 100% sure of themselves. I know YOU are. I’m sure you’re never wrong. But some people make mistakes. And they shouldn’t be raped for that.

And your comments aren’t all invalid. But you are on the warpath far more often (at least on Medium) than you are attempting to listen to someone else’s experience or point of view. You are not interested in altering your opinion about anything. And that is just shortsighted and ignorant. Do you really believe your thoughts on the subject are the infallible? Wait, what am I saying. OF COURSE YOU DO.

I do not believe that just because two people are drunk, women, because they feel regret when the beer goggles come off, should decide to accuse men of rape. I have had plenty of regrettable drunk sex, and never have I accused a man of rape.

That said, if a man has sex with a woman who is not conscious, whether he drugged her or she passed out behind a dumpster from too many shots of peppermint schnapps, the fact that he was drunk as well has no bearing on whether having sex with her was okay or not. Just because she’s too wasted to fight back does not mean she’s consenting.

Of course men are the victims of sexual assault, too. So write a story about that, independent of simultaneously berating and insulting women, and I’ll read it.

See, that’s the problem. There’s this movement women have started, saying we won’t accept being treated the way we’ve always been treated anymore. And men like you can’t accept that it’s not about how men are treated. That is a separate subject. We’re not saying that women are raped but men aren’t ever victims. We are just not trying to tell our story from the perspective of men because, NEWSFLASH, we’re not men. Who are we to arrogantly assume we know what their experience is like? When you can talk to us about that, without invalidating our experience at the same time, we’re listening.

Until then, your input is really not needed.

And don’t bother responding to this. I’m finished with this conversation. And when I’m done, I’m done.




I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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