Victoria I had some of the same feelings. My mother is VERY much this way. You take your blows and then you shut up about it. No one wants to think about that shit!
It wasn’t until a friend posted pictures of her bruised and battered body in Facebook speaking out against spousal rape, only to be told by a female “friend” that she was wrong to air her personal business on a public platform. That same “friend” was a huge advocate for humane treatment of animals and posted regularly about rescued abused dogs.
It hit me. We are so uncomfortable about a man beating his wife, but We will go to the mats when that same man beats his dog.
That was all it took for me.
We know what we know when we know it and not one second sooner. Don’t be sorry.