This is because your rant is nothing but a baseless attack against both men and women. And I’m not a woman with an agenda. I’m pretty lax as far as feminism goes. To each his/her own, I say. But when you start defining women, as a whole, as “perfectly secure in their role as 'Mother’” and men, as a whole, as simply “breadwinners”, I take offense on both sides. As both mother and breadwinner, I must insist that people are not nearly as one-dimensional as you describe. Women can work shitty jobs and welfare will make up the difference? Have you ever received welfare? It isn’t nearly enough to live on and oh, by the way? Men with shitty jobs collect welfare too. News flash. Women just take on jobs that fill the hours while their children are in school and they need something to pass the lonely childless hours? I work the job I work because it pays the bills. Period. Sure, families like those you’re describing exist. But to assert that this is the ONLY structure that exists is asinine and incredibly shortsighted.

I have many women friends who have chosen not to have children at all. Some of them work incredibly long hours in high stress jobs. So do some of the women I know who have children. And not once do you use the word “father” in your description of men, but I know tons of dads who consider being a father their most rewarding and important job.

I don’t know who pissed you off, or screwed you over, and shaped your world view on gender, but to describe a subset of the population as if it is indicative of the entire population is not only incredibly offensive and aggressive, but completely false.

Perhaps pre-1970’s America resembled your perception of the family unit more than after 1970, but it certainly is not true today, and it continues to look less and less that way with each passing year. If you’re interested in actual research and the resulting data regarding this subject, rather than continuing to make things up in your head that satisfy your biases against women, maybe read the 2012 Census Report on Family Structures in America.

To start.

Because I posit that actually, it is YOU who is not open to an honest discussion of the facts.

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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