They say in recovery you can’t stay sober for anyone but yourself. A lot of people feel very strongly about this. But one of the best things that ever happened for me was hearing a speaker call bullshit on that. He said, “they say you can’t stay sober for another person. I have. There have been times the only thing keeping me from a drink was knowing John was counting on me to take him to his home group tonight and if I didn’t show up he might not stay sober. And if he took a drink, HE could end up dead. “

I needed to hear it was okay to base my sobriety on someone else’s life because I wasn’t able to see the value or purpose in my own life well enough to do it for myself.

I think that’s okay. And I’m glad not letting him down was enough then to keep you going.


I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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