That’s just regret rearing its ugly head, and guys do it too. All the time. As long as no one is, out of pure regret and nothing else filing charges of assault or spreading lies about the person they slept with, it doesn’t bother me if they want to blame it on the alcohol.
If it was the alcohol that lowered your inhibitions, though, SAY THAT.
Don’t blame a man for something he wouldn’t have any reason to believe wasn’t consensual.
Coercion is something different than this…he kept buying you drinks and insisting you drink them. He manipulated the evening so he was in a position to take you home…he drove to his house “by mistake” so why don’t you just crash here?…that can be interpreted as a coerced situation. But if you happily accompany him home and into bed and feel bad about it In the morning because you cheated on your boyfriend and the only way he’s not gonna dump you is if you say you were forced, or passed out…
Girl, you need an ass whoopin’.