Thanks. Yeah, we kept things pretty solidly 2/2 until our oldest started driving and then we allowed her to decide (within reason) where she wanted to be and when and for how long. The reason for this was that our daughter had some mental health/behavior issues that routinely put our son at risk, since for some reason he was most often her object of rage. So we kept them apart except on weekends until she learned how to manage her emotions and we felt our son was safe in her presence. (For example, when she was 11 and he was 7, she broke his collarbone at Boys and Girls Club after school program). She has had a lot of therapy and other interventions and is actually becoming a very decent woman, but she damaged her brother and she knows she has to make living amends to him forever. I hope that one day he is able to trust and forgive her, but I understand if that doesn't happen. It's very sad, and I could get into the reasons but it would just sound like I was bashing the other parent and I don't want to do that here. I'll reserve it for my therapist. Lol.

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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