Thank you, Michelle. For the record, I only answered a question the OP posed, using my own experience and stating what I would/would not do if I found myself in her position. Sharing my experience with someone else is in no way accusing her of any wrongdoing or attacking her own choices/experience.
I sincerely apologize if anything I posted came across that way. I thought that was what she was looking for, but I may have misunderstood.