Thank you, Kiri Speirs
Sometimes it still knocks me sideways, that it still hurts this much.
He had treated me like shit for years, but he’s my dad’s son; he grew up watching our mom be denigrated and minimized and berated. I just figured he didn’t know any better and let him get away with far too much. Shortly before that last lecture (which arrived via text and was opened my my thirteen year old. In it, he had also referred to her as a liar and a thief. It fucking broke her heart. He is a middle school PE teacher and she was in 7th grade and is an outstanding athlete. She was looking forward to spending some time with her uncle at sports events and instead, he missed her whole middle school sports career and now, he’s lost her completely), he was lecturing me very rudely and I said (as I realized..), “Oh my God. You really think you’re better than me, don’t you?”
“Liz, I AM better than you.”
Well, okay, then.