TeriJo, I promise you, Tre is fine. Medium had become a place she dreaded instead of a place she welcomed, and so it was time for her to leave. It had nothing to do with any of us, I promise. This was not about personal philosophy, or a conflict of spirit or personality.

I think for her (and this is the only place I’m going to discuss this, because I think it’s important that we respect her privacy), the pressure of knowing so many were following her took its toll. Some people are here to grow a readership. Some are here to create a brand. Some don’t expect it but they do gain a following and to them it’s a nice idea that is almost like an afterthought. They continue writing for themselves and they are glad if what they write resonates with people or helps someone work through their own issues, but that is not WHY they are here. That is kind of how Medium feels for me (this does not include the close friends I’ve made here; that is a different thing and I’m not addressing that here)…I have never looked through a list of people who follow me. I rarely think about that.

So that describes some different types of Medium members. There’s another type, though. The type who came here to grow as a writer and learn about him or herself in the process (or maybe they came for some other reason, but it wasn’t to create a fan base), who developed a following and feels somehow responsible to that following. Which is okay to a certain point, because to a certain point, you can keep up with your following. But at some point, it gets to be too much. If you’re someone who feels a responsibility to the people who read your stuff, when those people start to number in the thousands, it’s easy to start feeling the crush of that.

I can’t promise, but I’m pretty sure that was at least part of the reason this decision was arrived at today. It was not a rash decision, this was something that had been a possibility for many months now and it’s going to be okay.

SHE is okay.

I am happy to let her know you were concerned because you care, if you like. But please don’t worry, she is practicing self-care with this decision and it is one that is positive for her right now. ❤

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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