Sorry, that phrase was misleading. I’ve addressed it in the main body of the piece. I don’t feel like the damage done to me by my father and ex-husband (among others) has doomed me to a life of more of the same at all.
My experiences (let’s just call them that, shall we? less of a negative connotation) rather have changed me in some wonderful ways…I am able to identify with people in pain and offer them hope, or just listen and understand and help them to FEEL understood and validated.
I consider that a wonderful gift, forged by terrible experiences.
The most wonderful gifts often are.
But, this is why I say damaged goods-
because I AM DAMAGED. and I want people to know that I don’t run from that. I use it to bond with other damaged souls who need someone who has come out the other side intact so they know it’s possible. I don’t want to pretend I’m all fixed, because I MANAGE MY DAMAGE, but the cracks and bumps and breaks healed and left scars and scars are forever.
But not necessarily bad. :)