So, this lends some validity to the assertion that the burden shouldered by men is one of fear, and that the fear has evolved as a direct result of what’s going on with gender right now. It’s funny that when you say it like that, I can totally see as women live in that constant state of heightened awareness as a response to perceived dangers, men in turn (even the good ones. or maybe especially the good ones, i supposed) are constantly on guard with their words, terrified of misspeaking and being wrongly interpreted and therefore judged and verbally eviscerated (because women can dish out some scathing verbiage when the situation calls for it, please believe).

it’s a very fragile climate we’ve created around gender, isn’t it? filled with landmines and booby traps (um…can i get in trouble for saying booby traps??)

LMAO that reminds me of another alex story.

He was three, and i caught him manufacturing some intricate device from branches and duct tape and toothpicks in our front yard. I asked him what he was doing:

“I’m making some booby traps.”

“Oh! Are you trying to catch us some dinner, or are you trying to capture bad guys?”


“Mom!. They’re booby traps. I’m trapping BOOBIES.”

(the duh at the end was only implied, as he hadn’t yet turned four…but I heard it anyway)

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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