So I was reading this again, then that again, then this, and the thing that is not the thing I think is not the opening of a door. It’s the opening of a door that she was clearly not walking towards. It’s that and a million other ways men (and women, because, c’mon…i think it’s more a personality type than a gender, sometimes…) take actions just to slightly bend us to their will. Had he jumped at the chance to rush over and open HER door, I think it would be a kind and sweet gesture. But much like the man who is a block ahead of me and opens a door I’m nowhere near and holds it…and holds it…looking irritated by the time I finally get there to appreciate his holding of the door, the man who opens HIS door and then gestures at her to “go ahead, i’m holding this for you!” when shes clearly headed for another door, yes, I can see that as an exertion of control. It is totally something my ex would have done, and it would have been anything but selfless .
I get her point here. I just think it’s sad that it would feel like that.
I also understand what you are saying. And I think it straight sucks that the argument could be proved OR disproved.
Abusive people — both men and women — just plain suck.
I’m so very glad you told your story. So glad. Please don’t stop now, because I broke my seal so I imagine I’m going to be unleashing a lot on here and I’d love to not be alone in that. ❤