Sir Dustin, I propose that you, as Willy Wonka would say, “Strike that! Reverse it!” in regards to the concept of control.
Just consider what you control, in this entire world. Like, actually control. EVER.
I doubt it.
You don’t even WANT that job.
Not if the market crashes.
Projects at work?
You may lead the team; or even the whole company, but if one of your teammates decides to walk out and take all of your shared ideas with him to another place and so your entire project becomes useless, were you in control?
Your safe driving record?
Sure. Until someone else doesn’t feel the need to control their own and plows into you.
Family Gathering ?
Maybe, unless there are other people there. Then, nope. Sorry.
You definitely influence all of those things. But you don’t control them any more than you control the weather.
What do you do for the weather? You prepare for it. Or you don’t, and you react to it.
I posit that the only thing you have control of is your attitude about things, and the way you act towards your fellow humans.
And, if THAT is true, then your decision to “LOSE CONTROL” of something categorically already outside of your control, in order to positively enrich your life and the lives of your family, would actually be you “TAKING CONTROL” . Maybe for the first time in a while. :)