Right? But I guess that would depend on how you treat them, wouldn’t it? If you and “the boys” are big on guy talk ( in the stereotypical fashion…remember, I am not a guy and so I’m getting my references from locker room scenes from 80s John Hughes movies. ) then treating girls the same way could be dicey…

I’m thinking this over now, though. And oddly enough, since I made the decision not to date for the foreseeable future while I focus on other parts of my life ( career, parenting, writing…hands are full!), I can honestly say that every man whom I consider a part of my life is a true friend, without undercurrents of anything else. There were a couple of guys who I cared about but they kept pushing for more than friendship ( which I find ridiculous..the whole “more than friends” concept. To me, there is nothing that rates higher than friendship. If it isn’t the basis of an intimate relationship, then nope. ) so I detached from them for now…

I am at a place in my life where I regard both my make and female friends the same way.

Thank you for your comment. I hadn’t examined this before.

It’s funny. I’m in the middle of an apology letter to all the boys I’ve loved before. It’s taking me forever to get it right.

Because I promise, boys and men have definitely scarred me deeply throughout my lifetime.

But I left some definite marks of my own. And I’m just as responsible for someone else’s pain because of that as those men who damaged me are responsible for mine.

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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