Richard, you seem like a nice guy, so I’m going to level with you, as a single mother. Okay? Please, please, please do not have a child (again, not sure what the plan is there…I may be missing a crucial piece of information).

This sentence is the crux of why you shouldn’t. The mindset that a baby will prove to be that THING that finally propels you into high gear, achievement/earning capabilities, getting your own place…it is a very naive mindset, and one that has been shared with you by teenage girls for ages.

They feel lonely, and incomplete, and stuck and unsatisfied with their lives, and they become convinced that the way to make everything better is to create someone who will love them unconditionally. But that is not what babies provide. That is what PARENTS provide.

And not to be negative again, but babysitting your nieces (nephews?) does not even begin to cover what it’s like to be solely responsible for a completely helpless life, 24/7.

I think you absolutely SHOULD have children someday, when you’ve figured out how to have that motivation for your own life.

First, though, you should probably get a job.

❤ This was written with much love. If I didn’t find you endearing and want the best life possible for you, I’d have just told you to go for it. ❤

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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