No, I think you’re doing ABSOLUTELY the right thing. You must not have caught my humor when I said judge him, sorry. :) It was a joke. I mean, by all means if you WANT to, go ahead. But I said that in jest.
A friend of mine says, we keep our side of the street clean. It is all we need be concerned with, because nothing else is within our control. If we do wrong, we make amends and we head right back to our side of the street, because we are not making amends so that we may be forgiven; that is irrelevant (not because we don’t care, but because it is out of our hands)
the amends is our side. what they do with it is theirs.
we don’t say “I love you” to hear “I love you, too.”
We don’t take responsibility for other people’s actions, either. Nor do we judge them. We just take actions that WE can live with, over here on our side of the street.
The only control we have in this big, wide, world.
Yet so many of us expend SO MUCH ENERGY trying to exert our will onto others and then react with anger when they don’t conform. As if we have any right to tell anyone else anything, really, at all.
I think a fair amount of misery in this world is a direct result of people being unable to “make things go their way”. When in reality, they have no power to MAKE anything go any certain way.
We can influence specific outcomes if we work hard at it, but we cannot force them. We can go to college, get a degree in Marine Biology, volunteer and work and slave and follow every expert’s advice with precision so that we can fulfill our lifelong dream of saving the porpoise from extinction..
We’ve influenced our desired outcome. but if for some reason, porpoises die out completely before we’ve attained our goal, we can’t force them back from extinction.
That’s life. and I really, truly believe that if more people lived as you’re choosing to live; focused on themselves and their actions and the way they show up in the world, instead of focused outward pointing fingers, telling everyone else what they’re doing wrong, the world would be well on its way to healing.
As for me, I aspire and fall short most days. but I keep trying. :)