…yself everyone is living their own reality, with their own experiences that made them who they are. Everyone has their choice in their responses to events (Which might not be completely accurate; I have gotten flak for being soft-deterministic from hard determinist before) but in the end, it is …
No, I think you’re being perfectly accurate. In fact, our behavior and our response to other people’s behavior is about the ONLY thing we have a choice in.
And when we respond to another with rage, or frustration, or violence, it is usually because we are trying to make someone behave as we would have behaved in their shoes, and when the person refuses, we react.
We have control of that reaction, but we have no power over another person’s actions.
Thank you for this reminder. Because honestly, I was having trouble accessing that part of my brain today.
It’s like it (loosely) says in The Big Book ( since I have to cite)-
When something (or someone) has my panties all in a wad, it is because I find something about that something ( or someone) unacceptable. And until I accept that something ( or someone) exactly as it is, I can know no peace.
I don’t have to agree with it. I just have to know it’s not mine to change.