My daughter and I were huge Glee fans. Cory Monteith’s overdose was Alaina’s first experience with the death of a beloved character. She was ten.

This time, she was the one who told me, first, about the allegations. Then the discovery of the images. Then the admittance of guilt. So I was not at all surprised when I got the text last week: “Puck killed himself.”

For us, this has been an opportunity to discuss exactly what you bring up here. We have avoided the public reaction for the most part and focused on the terrible act that suicide is, regardless of the sins of the person committing it. I’ve been pretty impressed with her objectivity-she has neither minimized his horrific crimes nor expressed any satisfaction in his choice to die rather than live with his consequences.

At least for us, some good (if that is possible in the midst of such a grim reality) has come from it all.

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.