Just so you know, I was a blackout drinker and a raging alcoholic who eventually ended up losing everything. And there isn’t a single friend from college — and we were a TIGHT KNIT group of girls — who could have changed my course.
It may be better that you didn’t step in and try to manage those people’s drinking (i know that isn’t what you said, but it’s what you would have had to do). My mother has been managing my father’s alcoholism for 45 years, making sure he didn’t have to suffer the consequences of his actions. He has no reason to quit. Why would he?
My ex husband is not a nice person. He was abusive and jealous and explosive and mean. But his refusal to put up with my problems probably saved my life. And that is why I don’t kill him.
Just kidding. ;-) about that last sentence. The rest, though, is all true.