Jonas Ellison you know I enjoy the bejeezus out of your pieces. Or maybe you don’t know, but I do. However, I am struggling with this one because I feel like it was almost supposed to get my hackles up, right there in the first sentence. Even though you adjusted for the beginning there in paragraph three, I object to the assumption that “most of the love in this world is outcome-based”, when clearly, that is not the case. Because, as you state later, THIS IS NOT LOVE.

The reality is that (at least within my own personal and somewhat limited scope) the growing narcissistic nature of our society has perverted the “idea” of love into something barely recognizable. Into that “waiting for our turn to talk instead of listening” mentality. That “what’s in it for me?” thinking. THAT is what is outcome-based. Not love.

Because, as you state (and I’m paraphrasing, obviously), love isn’t something we seek to receive. It is in the giving that we are supposed to find joy.

I learned the hard way not too many years ago that love is just as often about letting something go as it is about holding something close.

My favorite love quote is by Osho:

If you love a flower, don’t pick it up.
Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love.
So if you love a flower, let it be.
Love is not about possession.
Love is about appreciation.

Anyway, I just don’t think that thing at the beginning should be called love. But I get why you stated it that way.

Have an awesome Halloween with Supergirl. :)

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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