Jennifer Brown , nothing personal or anything, but I feel like you could have played hardball here, and outed the whole fam damily, instead of putting all of your energy into this redheaded step child turn of phrase.

You forgot her old man, “Honestly”, and her bio mom, “To tell you the truth”. I read no mention of her older brother, “Not to be rude”, or her baby sister, “No offense.”

And that’s just immediate family.

No, but seriously… ;)

I think when someone says “Nothing personal, but”, I think personal offense is exactly what they’re aiming for. And you’re right, it’s not personal to them. But I don’t think that’s why they’re callous with the phrase. I think that most people are going to say whatever comes after “nothing personal, but” because it’s personal to you.

and I think when someone says “no offense…” then they absolutely intend on offending. “Not to be rude”=”So, I’m about to say something incredibly rude, but I’d like to not be held responsible for any negative effects that may result”.

And “to tell you the truth?” “Honestly?”


--side note: I should have acknowledged the legions of people for whom one or more of these phrases are habitual conversation filler phrases, and in that case, the speaker is probably unaware of having uttered them most of the time. But just to be clear--habits are usually developed by repeating the behavior over time. So at some point, that person meant what they said.

(also, It might just be that I’m totally hanging with the wrong crowd, tho…

ooh, yeah. That’s entirely possible.)

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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