It’s such a weird thought (I get it too)- if I do THIS, she gets THAT. and THAT for her is worth way too much of THIS even when it doesn’t feel like it.
I don’t totally understand your specific situation…my kids have a father and they spend time with him too…but he is a terrible influence and I spend a good deal of my energy on deprogramming them after they get back from his house. (Also not a great option, if ya have options.)
But I’ve been at this a bit longer. My oldest will fly the coop in May. And I promise you that as long as the days are now, you’ll look back and feel like the years passed you by during a blink.
And the part where you set her up for a successful, flourishing adulthood will have been worth it, and too short. I look at my daughter and can’t believe we only get to do this part for 18 years out of an entire lifetime.
It isnt nearly long enough.
You’re a great mom.
My son? Total slob, but fabulous human. Every time I find myself clearing the towels out of his room (he collects 2 a day) or any of a hundred other things i have to do so we dont suffocate under a mountain of dirty teen boy socks, I make a point (lately) to mutter, under my breath but still OUT LOUD,
Someday way too soon, I’m going to miss this mess.
It for real helps me keep things in perspective.