It’s such a weird thought (I get it too)- if I do THIS, she gets THAT. and THAT for her is worth way too much of THIS even when it doesn’t feel like it.

I don’t totally understand your specific situation…my kids have a father and they spend time with him too…but he is a terrible influence and I spend a good deal of my energy on deprogramming them after they get back from his house. (Also not a great option, if ya have options.)

But I’ve been at this a bit longer. My oldest will fly the coop in May. And I promise you that as long as the days are now, you’ll look back and feel like the years passed you by during a blink.

And the part where you set her up for a successful, flourishing adulthood will have been worth it, and too short. I look at my daughter and can’t believe we only get to do this part for 18 years out of an entire lifetime.

It isnt nearly long enough.

You’re a great mom.

My son? Total slob, but fabulous human. Every time I find myself clearing the towels out of his room (he collects 2 a day) or any of a hundred other things i have to do so we dont suffocate under a mountain of dirty teen boy socks, I make a point (lately) to mutter, under my breath but still OUT LOUD,

Someday way too soon, I’m going to miss this mess.

It for real helps me keep things in perspective.

Enjoy. ❤

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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