The point was not that I dated a “crazy” woman with PTSD… the point was that I dated a “crazy” woman who was a pathological liar with self-control issues, violent tendencies, drug issues, fidelity issues, a complete lack of personal responsibility OR respect for others and who also had PTSD.
It sounds like your “crazy” woman more likely suffered from an undiagnosed (likely cluster B) personality disorder. If this is the case, she is highly unlikely to improve, as those with cluster B disorders, by the nature of the beast, can’t ‘see’ their pathology. Cluster B= Narcissistic Personality Disorder; Antisocial Personality Disorder; (yours probably lived about here) Borderline Personality Disorder
These disorders are usually the result of childhood trauma, so compassion is in order.
also, though, GTFO as fast as you can is in order.
However, as a person diagnosed with an organic mental disorder (2, if you count ADHD) that I recognize and actively treat with medication and therapy, I take offense at being lumped in everyone and the “crazy” label. You didn’t use it here, but ‘bipolar’ gets thrown around synonymous with “crazy” and “psycho” all the time. And if you met me, you’d have no idea I take medication. and yet…
I think you get to be the poster boy today, just because of the way you worded your post — which is, by the way, a pretty accurate representation of the world at large and how people struggling with their mental health are all lumped together and dehumanized because everyone has had a “psycho” ex and thinks that qualifies them to label “crazy”. In reality, mental illness is far more complex and varied than that, and I think all we’re asking the world, one poster boy at a time, is to educate yourselves and try to refrain from using stigmatic and derogatory terms that insult an entire population, most of whom don’t even suffer from the symptoms that you are trying to describe. At least, try to use self-restraint when you’re posting on a public forum. Just out of respect for your fellow humans. I think the way you described her, by listing her behaviors/symptoms was fine. It was specific to her, instead of generalized to a legion of people you know nothing about.
The term you think in your head does not have to be the one you use on the page. You have the ability to censor that.
Does that make sense, without you taking this personally and getting defensive?