It has been 18 months since I spoke to mine. And I don’t have any desire to change that. I’m so sorry he treated you that way. And there are lots of people in my family I purposely keep no contact.
I am a big believer in no contact. Toxicity is attracted to me. Boundaries are healthy and necessary to keep us safe. But when we have been so wounded by the world, the challenge is to set boundaries that can grow with us and help us not to repeat past mistakes, not to wall out the world so it can’t hurt us.
And we shouldn’t have to learn how to do any of that, but people suck so badly sometimes. ☹