I’m in! You know, both my brother and my dad are just like this ( IRL they would only speak this derisively to their wives and children; they are ever-so-charming towards every other person on the planet, for public consumption…but I could totally see them using an outlet like this to release the pressure all that fake compassion and caring has to build in them…).

Anyway, my point is that for a long, long time, this brand of “man”, employing this tactic--when directed at people of color, LGBQT folks, and women-- has elicited the sought after fear response and therefore been rewarded for his effort.

Believe me when I tell you that when my brother or dad (or ex-husband, actually) target that pent up rage towards ME, they’re terrifying.

Or they were.

It took ONE instance of me lobbing the ball back into their court…doing ANYTHING different than what I had always done ( back down, dissolve into tears, pretend it hadnt happened 5 minutes later, etc.)…to stop them in their tracks . first, they responded with way out of proportion anger, I guess because I broke the rules and bit back…then silence. 18 months of silence from my brother so far.

Anyway, I think the bite back is collectively being utilized to such a degree that we are in a new phase..that phase of rage disproportionate to whatever it is they’re ranting about…

We aren’t shrinking in fear of their big voices and confidence in their idiocy anymore.

So they get meaner.

But I think they just don’t know what to do when bullying people into complying with their warped ideals isn’t working anymore.

So, what’s next?

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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