I’m in the same situation, and sometimes it really scares me. Sometimes I feel like it will be okay and I make jokes about it to my kids so they won’t worry.

The truth is, this time in life is different for single empty nesters than it is for couples. I have to reach out (not my strong suit) and create a life because it’s certainly not going to come looking for me.

I’m trying to do that one step at a time. I joined a meet up group (or three) in my hometown, about 3 months ago. I’ve yet to actually meet up with anyone. Small steps, right? ☺

I am supposed to attend a trivia night on Thursday. The teams have to be 6, no more, no less. So if I don’t show up, no one will get to play. These total strangers are counting on me and I’m counting on my innate need to not disappoint people being strong enough to get me there despite my fear of new things.

I picked that event on purpose, so I wont chicken out. Because it’s scary when you’re 46 to learn to form new friendships again. We don’t really get dumped in situations that force them into being like when we were kids.

My current friends will be around, they’re not going anywhere. But all my friends are married. They have together plans after the kids leave. As they should.

Sigh. It’s a brave, new world, I guess. Gulp.

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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