I told you your little dude reminded me of mine. Here’s a post from Facebook almost exactly 2 years ago.
Of course, I did not approve of the physical nature of his response at the time. But I spoke with him at length about this; in this case, the situation was an ongoing one throughout the year. Alex had repeatedly asked the boy to leave her alone. He had gone to the teacher, and the recess person. The GIRL had gone to the teacher repeatedly. These were second graders, and the grown-ups in charge were giving them the idea that what this boy was doing was acceptable .
So, I told him to ALWAYS do what he’d been doing (not the shoving part), and I told him that an adult should have put a stop to that a long time ago. I spoke to his teacher, and she was full of the “boys will be boys, that’s just what they do” attitude that I SOOO abhor. And I know I shouldn’t add gender to your son’s good deeds, but seriously. In this world, the fact is that if you are female, your voice is just a little harder to hear, it seems. So good for your boy, for hearing his friend, and making sure that everyone else heard her, as well.