I think that staying “true" to feminism is not about rebelling against gender and social norms when those norms happen to just make sense in a person’s life. I think it’s about shaking a middle finger at the whole concept of ‘norms’.
As long as we look at laundry, and preparing meals, as 50s housewife work, we ensure that this stereotype continues in perpetuity, instead of calling it all what it is: work.
No qualifier necessary.
You said it: if your situations were reversed, the bf would be tackling the chores you have assumed at this time.
You don’t enjoy folding laundry because you have a vagina. If that were the case, I would ALSO enjoy folding laundry and I assure you, I do not. You enjoy folding laundry because it provides you with some kind of positive result that makes you happy.
So, you definitely should keep folding laundry. In fact, there are 2 or 3 clean loads on my couch right now you are more than welcome to tackle in your spare time (ha!).
Remember, the point of feminism was not to get women out of the kitchen and fitted with steel-toed boots. It was to change the world into a place where ANY PERSON could CHOOSE the kitchen, the boots, both, or neither.
That world is still a long way off in a lot of ways, but I don’t think you’re in any danger of becoming June Cleaver anytime soon. Your feminist badge of honor is secure.