I love this. As the mother of a 14 year old and an 18 year old away at college for the first time, i question my new, more “distant" parenting all the time.
But my daughter and i have actually grown much closer since she moved away. I am careful to treat her like an adult, respect her relationship, and only offer advice when she specifically asks for it. I find it helpful to remember when i was her age…i think its crazy how many parents seem to forget a) being brand new adults and b) how unlikely we were at that age to continue to “mind" our parents and c) life had a way of teaching us, regardless.
I tell my mom now that she was pretty much always right back then. I never followed her advice, and life went ahead and taught me those lessons the hard(er) way.
I cant really expect my kids to do it any differently than i did, can i?
Anyway this article made me feel good about the way i have chosen to adapt parenthood to fit my fledgling grown child. Thank you!!