I have a secret too. It’s the same secret; just worded the way I finally heard it.

They have these words:




self-hatred…and these feelings that connect to them:






and what this whole group of concepts and emotions add up to is an epidemic today.

people misconstrue things like self-loathing (“i’m so fat; I’m ugly; I’m worthless) to be anti-THE SELF. SELF-LESS. Self-deprecation, if you will. But they’re not. They’re the opposite.

Sitting around worrying about your life, and sitting in fear about the future and hating yourself and all of that is just a form of self-obsession. Of selfishness. SO, YES-EXTREME EGO.

and the only way out of that is service. I promise, it doesn’t take much. Give rides to someone who can’t drive. Be that guy who lets traffic merge in front of you.

LISTEN. To someone else who’s in pain. Let them obsess about themselves and REALLY listen and give a shit.

and every single second you’re immersed in serving another human being,

you forget to worry about yourself.

Just a thought.

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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