I certainly hope not. As someone who tends to yoyo between hwp and not even close, purely based on what my life looks like at the time. For example, in 2013, I was on the tail end of spending 4 years without a car, and through the necessity of getting myself and my kids everywhere on foot or public transport, lost a significant amount of weight. I don’t know how much, as I intentionally don’t own a scale. I didn’t change my eating habits. Just moved more because I had no choice. I didn’t “carve out time to exercise”, but my life demanded exercise. When I finally got a car, that necessary movement was all that changed. I have gotten back to my prior size, and I’m not happy about it. Because I’m uncomfortable. I’m 44 and everything hurts. I don’t feel well. I bruise easily and my skin ulcerates in places.

I need to make a change because I know if I do i will feel better. It’s not cosmetic, and honestly, I have a great respect for people who manage to be comfortable in their own skin, no matter the size of that skin.

But I think every person should choose what makes them happy and who are any of us to tell another person they’re doing that wrong?

And part of it, you’re right, is I’m in a no man’s land of fatness. To the thin, I am considered fat. To the fat, I’m not one of them yet.

It’s a dynamic definition, fat. And exclusion is the last thing anyone trying to find a place in the world needs.

If they kick you out, you are always welcome to hang out with me.

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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