I can’t tell you why she is so upset, but I can tell you from my own experience that the 4/3 custody week was MURDER on my kids. They were 7 and 3 when the ex and I divorced and we tried the 4/3 week for about a year.

The next year we decided to do week on/week off and things got markedly better but it was still difficult. We would just be getting settled into our routine and BANG! it was time to switch parents and houses again. It made achieving any long-term adjustments very difficult.

Around year 3 or 4, we started doing 2 and 2, but spending the middle weekend with the other parent (but that weekend was like a fun mini vacay instead of a full custody swap). That was mostly because neither of us could stand to be away from the kids for 14 whole days lol.

But for the kids? Two weeks was the sweet spot. They had time to adjust, and get comfy, and it was really good for school projects and whatnot…usually one parent had time to see the project through from beginning to end.

Anyway, all that back and forth is REALLY hard on little ones, and especially hard for 5 and 6 year olds. They are trying to figure school out and that is huge all by itself. Add playing musical houses to the mix and you can maybe understand why your little one feels like she has no control over her own life. Right?

Anyway, this is just what worked for us. The oldest is in college now, the baby starts high school in the fall, and I think theyre doing pretty well. ☺

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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