I am LOVING this discussion. Mostly because, being between you in age, I identify with so much of what each of you are saying. And so much of it is true for me. Its why I always come back to my part and where my power lies in this. It is over my own behavior and attitude, and that is all. I know where my prejudices lie, and because I refuse to let that define me, I have trained myself to behave differently than I feel in certain situations. Because we don’t always have control over our feelings or thoughts. But through practiced actions contrary to potentially ugly feelings or thoughts I may have, I can retrain those thoughts and feelings. Act my way into right thinking, instead of thinking my way into right action. Action has always worked better for me than lip service.