I agree to some extent, Meg Barclay ( or maybe I agree completely and it’s just a difference in verbiage). My goal for this whole “relationship with self” concept is pretty basic.
I have a great deal of compassion for most people — I have the MOST compassion for those with some of the most disagreeable personalities and the most downtrodden of curcumstances. It is usually really easy for me to focus my attention on the best parts of them, and almost (but NOT QUITE) as easy for me to ignore the less wonderful stuff.
(This changes regarding people who have (either past or present) harmed me. Fool me once, shame on you and all that jazz.)
Anyway, I really took the long way around this, didn’t I?
My goal each day is to try and see myself as I see others —
To accept my failures and celebrate my victories.
To allow myself to be a flawed human being without hating my humanity.
To train my inner voice to say kind things instead of berating and shaming the woman in the mirror.
To try not to place unreasonable expectations on myself.
And mostly, to forgive myself when I forget to follow my own plan to treat all people as equal by not remembering that I, too, am a PERSON, deserving of the same kindness I show others.