Hi, Natalie Rogers! Nice to meet you, except now you’ve made me a liar. :)
It’s okay. it wasn’t the first time, and it won’t be the last. I have bipolar disorder and it’s funny, the reason I had any knowledge about this at all is because I was all set to rant at someone who was making a really inaccurate comparison between BPD and (lol) BPD. And in reality, there is much crossover between the two, in terms of manifestation of symptoms. The main difference, I think, is the type of mood cycling that occurs (bipolar cycling tends to be more generalized — a period of general manic energy/sleeplessness/impulsiveness followed by a period of general clinical depressive mood/lack of energy/apathy/listlessness whereas bpd is (supposedly) more rapidly cyclic, with more specific mood swings (anger, disgust, love, etc.). ANNNNYWAY my point was that this guy was just ripping his ex a new one and he kept referring to her as bipolar and i asked if she had been diagnosed and he was like um…no…and i said you shouldn’t be using medical terminology like slang for psycho ex girlfriend. I thought that was what he was doing but actually she HAD a dx of bpd (he was still being a complete douchebag) but i thought i’d take it upon myself to school him on the two diagnoses (i totally should have stayed out of it). Anyway, I went on this rant about medication and how one was treatable with meds and one wasn’t (because that is what i thought) and for some reason, I had a moment of clarity and decided to check my facts before posting my all knowing response….and THAT is when i found out that meds actually ARE used to treat BPD…
I’m the daughter of a malignant narcissist with two ex narcs in my recent past who almost destroyed me completely. I have no love for narcissism. But i learned all i could about it and they kind of always nested it with BPD in literature. and narcissism is almost never treated successfully, with meds or anything else, because narcissists think it’s always everyone else (in my experience. i’m sure that’s not a true statement for the entire population). but because of what i’d read when researching narcissim, I’d made the incorrect assumption that it was the same for BPD. I just wanted to model a nice, neutral explanation for my buddy victoria, who would never intentionally hurt or malign someone EVER because she’s a fabulous, empathetic, kick-ass, fierce survivor of a woman. Who has mad respect for other women. Hope I did not similarly offend you.
i’m in the middle of my manic cycle right now (actually, it’s more of a hypomania; less extreme than traditional mania); it’s relatively tame but I do tend to be more effusive and less self-aware, so please, if I have in anyway caused you to feel any yucky stuff, tell me and I will try and make it right.
I’m really glad you spoke up. I hadn’t seen the piece Victoria was referring to, so my response was just to her comment and nothing else. :) Have a good weekend!