Hi. I just looked back at the original article and it seems to me that it is a braided essay about the topic of women feeling nervous about rebuking a man’s advances in light of a number of recent incidents in which men retaliated against women who rejected their advances. Period. I don’t know why one woman’s feelings in regards to this topic so upsets you, but I do know you are reinforcing several gender stereotypes all on your own.

Here’s the thing: I didn’t read anywhere in her essay that she considers this specifically a one-sided phenomenon. She was ADDRESSING A PARTICULAR SUBJECT (women being hurt for rejecting men), not writing a comparative essay about whether men or women are more frequently victims of lovers scorned. IF YOU WANT TO WRITE ABOUT MEN BEING HURT FOR REJECTING WOMEN, please, by all means, do so.

(note: by this, I mean write your own piece, not replace the feminine pronouns in her work with masculine pronouns and claim ‘parody’ when someone objects)

It is not the writer’s job to research (and then report on) all sides of every issue, unless that writer’s mission is to eliminate all bias and address an audience from a neutral perspective, ensuring that all perspectives are equally represented. That was clearly not this writer’s objective. Her objective was to share her perspective, which she did. Please don’t act as though it was a personal attack on all men. She (I believe) is talking about men who react negatively/violently when spurned. If that’s not you, then why are you letting it get you so bent out of shape?

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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