He is playing that assertive part that some men are groomed into and that has been an acceptable standard of male behavior until recently and apparently, he’s one of the guys who missed the memo. Probably because you’ve been playing that diplomatic part so many women are groomed into that has been an expected part of female behavior for so long. In a few weeks, at this pace, you’ll have to find a new gym because your resentment will have grown too large for this one. I don’t know if he’s an Asshole or just clueless, but in case you missed the memo, I want to pay it forward, because I spent 40 years doing just what you’re doing until it almost did me in. Do not fear your voice. TELL HIM!!! You can be nice about it, but tell him this is your sacred time. You aren’t here to meet men or socialize. Would he mind letting you work out in silence FROM NOW ON??? If he was clueless, he will gladly back down. If he’s an Asshole and continues, then you have a reason to not be friendly the next time. Gyms aren’t big on having to deal with sexual harassment claims. They’ll shoot him down if you aren’t able. No one should make you feel the way this man makes you feel. ❤

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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