Do you condescend to everyone? I didn’t criticize Californians, I said I was glad I didn’t live there. I would never make it; where I live, you can wear your Carharts and work boots to a 5-star establishment and no one looks at you sideways. I would NOT be able to be happy in a place where appearances are so important. That has NOTHING to do with anyone but me, but go ahead and take it personally if it floats your boat.

Perhaps I wouldn’t have made the restaurant assumption if, instead of calling your seating “inexpicable” like you had no idea what could have possibly led to it, you had called it an oversight like, you know, it was.

Telling half the story can lead to assumptions.

I shouldn’t have said you seemed like a snob to me-I should have depersonalized the statement and called out the behavior-that’s my bad, so, I’m sorry about that.

I get not ‘feeling’ it, by the way. And I get being righteously indignant about the way a man treats you. And I don’t mean to suggest anyone should continue dating someone they don’t want to date. God knows I don’t. But this sounds like a decent, nice guy. And those aren’t a dime a dozen. It just feels like you’re making him into a joke just because it didn’t work out, and I think the tone of your piece was in poor taste.

Maybe he was clueless. Maybe he didn’t follow proper etiquette. But it sounds like he was respectful, and sweet, and maybe deserved better from you than a written evisceration.

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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