Denial of a thing is very different than overdosing on a thing. By forcing you to eat something you hated, making you sit at the table until you complied, when there were so many other options to get nutrients into you…he did that to reinforce his dominant position in the family. He did it because power and control is the whole point of abuse.
Reclaiming something you loved then lost is a joyful thing. Learning to tolerate something you hated and had forced on you is trauma-inducing and unnecessary for the facilitation of healing.
What I’m trying to say, Wild Flower love, is fuck cabbage in its earhole. There are too many other wonderful veggies out there to worry about trying to learn to like that one. ❤