Charles, I agree wholeheartedly with what H. has said here and want to add that I think it is so courageous of you to admit to being on the other end of some of the behaviors you experienced at school. Because as H. mentioned, hurt people hurt people and I think we often want to label someone as a victim or as a perpetrator of violence. And it is oftentimes both. And while it’s not easy admitting victimhood, that is generally met with compassion whereas admitting you hurt someone else opens you up to shaming and character assassination.

The scariest thing for me here has been to admit that there were times, when I was in my addiction or coping with my own abuses that I was hurting people. Luckily most people have been able to see that I was owning my issues and working to be better.

I think it was easy to understand why, in the situation you were in, that you exhibited certain behaviors and to feel your remorse. Still, though, it was brave of you to be honest about that.

And important. Because I suspect this is the case for MOST people and how are we to address it if no one is talking about it?

Thank you for your candidness.

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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