And those who enter into the union as votaries will INVARIABLY be relegated to the role of arch enemy the second they flinch, or hesitate in the slightest, when professing their adulation and complete reverence. Because, exactly as you said, it is one or the other. Any deviation from complete and total worship and acceptance of whatever the disordered individual chooses to do is cause for immediate discard.
Also, had to Google votaries. Yay for expanding vocabulary!!