and their own sense of WORTH. when you feel your entire value is attached to men, it’s hard to oppose them by sticking up for other women. or believing them. even when you have stood in their shoes.
and it’s not just women of a certain age, era, or generation. My 16 year old, who has always been more comfortable with friends of the opposite sex (even though one of those “friends" had no problem calling her a cunt when, at age 12, she disagreed with him) has voiced her “doubts" about several females--on the news, in school--who have spoken about being assaulted. I can only assume she is taking on the opinions she is most exposed to, those of her guy friends.
I cant tell you how many times I’ve had to talk through this with her.
it’s a hard won lesson, and one, I’m afraid , it takes actually being assaulted to learn for some. and for others, even that wont be enough.