and on worry…
I wrote a piece about worry once…a picture of a child, raised in two scenarios: one with a mother who incessantly worried and one who did not. The thing is, horrible things can happen to anyone. Before they happen, worrying is all we can do. And then if the horrible thing happens, we still have to deal with it. We’ve already wasted so much time feeling horrible about the very thing we are now feeling horrible about, when we could have used all that time to live, and experience, and make memories…instead, we ruined it by obsessing on “what if”. And ironically, when we do this, many times we inadvertently create exactly what we were trying to avoid.
we worry our child will get sick, and so overreact to every tummy ache or stuffy nose…we over-medicate, and over-protect, and in doing so, we mold a child psychologically predisposed to paranoia, or dependence, or depression…in essence, we turn our perfectly healthy kid into a sick person by worrying that they’re going to be a sick person.