And, by the way, since you’ve clearly completely disregarded every, single point I’ve attempted to make by accusing me of “making it a gender issue” and subsequently ignoring it, let me say AGAIN:

It is absolutely NOT okay for women to treat men in such a manner any more than it is okay for men to treat women this way. But you are skipping, or willfully ignoring, or pretending away this

the kinds of sexual assault that would get any man beaten up or arrested”

idea. It is greatly exaggerated, to say the least. I have actually NEVER personally known of ANY man who has done ANYTHING to ANY woman IN MY ENTIRE LIFETIME who has suffered either physical or legal retribution for the offense, from a simple unwanted over the clothing fondle, to good old-fashioned, violent rape.

Do men sometimes have to answer for the crimes they commit against women? Sure, sometimes.

But I’ve only honestly witnessed such consequences in the news.

My father put my mother into the hospital on multiple occasions. The most recent almost ended her life. It resulted in his one and only legal consequence and it was unrelated to the injuries he bestowed upon my mother.

I come from a long line of that sort of thing, and not a single male member of my family has ever been so much as reprimanded for hurting a woman. One cousin spent significant time in prison, and that was for fatal injuries sustained by a guy he got into a bar fight with.

And do you know why? Because it’s “family business” and no one wants to deal with that. Because it’s SO FUCKING COMMON that it’s untenable to try and fathom the magnitude of actually addressing the problem on a PERSONAL level, much less on a global one.

Because it’s HER word against HIS (or HIS against HERS, in your neighborhood), and we haven’t yet moved beyond teaching her to avoid danger, rather than teaching him not to be dangerous. So, naturally, the first question posed is generally, “WHAT DID SHE DO TO END UP IN THIS SITUATION IN THE FIRST PLACE?”

It’s utter bullshit, and it’s showing no signs of changing. Especially now.

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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