Also, you are right. Turning him in would just make everything worse if she isn't ready to cut and run. It would be worse for her, the kids, and you. The only one who wouldn't lose anything in that exchange would be the abuser.
I loved my dad. He was broken. He mellowed with age and became at least a passable grandfather to my kids. And I butt out of it with him and my mom. Me trying to "help" like I did in my 20s when I knew everything about everything just totally stressed my mom out and it took me becoming a mom and marrying someone like my dad then divorcing to understand that. She was never going to leave him. My worst fear became her dying first and never getting to live a day free from him. Thankfully, that did not happen. It took her a couple of years to realize she no longer had to live by his rules--44 years is a long time--but she does what she wants when she wants to now and it is a beautiful thing to witness.

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I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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