Absolutely. I’m going to tell you a secret about myself. Before I found Medium, I thought there was really something wrong with me. Everyone else seemed so SURE of where they stood on the issues, and I never was. And it seemed like the more I researched an issue, the less sure I became.

Take for instance last year when the big uproar about Syrian refugees was all over the “news”. My liberal friends were absolute in the belief that we should be welcoming everyone in who landed on our shores. After all, isn’t that what the Statue of Liberty tells us to do?

My conservative friends were adamant about securing the borders. If we got this huge influx of displaced persons, who would pay for them? How many more REAL Americans would be out of a job? Honestly I can’t remember all of their reasons but it came down to absolutely NOT.

Now, I lean to the left. I would read the stories where children were interviewed about living in a war zone. Using rocks as pillows. Being so tired. Losing a little brother over the side of the boat. Horrifying stuff; I was ready to have them all just brought to me. But I worried that in a place so full of people who didn’t want them that their new lives would end up just being a different brand of intolerable. Because when this country goes on the offense at a particular demographic, it is ugly. Sad that the hesitation I felt about having them here centered around my acceptance of our country as intolerant and cruel. And so on, and so forth. This actually turned out to be a shitty example but I don’t have time to rewrite this.

The people here showed me that my feelings of uncertainty are okay. If learning more about something gives me insight into a viewpoint I hadn’t considered or didn’t understand and raised doubts about the way I previously thought things were, that was a good thing. At some point, if we are willing, we realize that the more we learn, the less we know. The denominator keeps expanding and we realize there is much more to every story than can be explained with a simple yes or no. And we realize that most of these things will never be resolved.

I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up, but I know I want it to be spelled right and punctuated correctly. I guess that’s something.

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